toy4BBW

I'm quiet, however, I am not a sub. I prefer to observe before interacting. My partner is uber kink who needs more kink than I, alone, can give him. I am looking for friends who might like to help me up the kink volume for him. Amongst his various fetishes large, plump, zaftig, rubenesque ladies make him drool and raise his heartbeat.

He is into bondage/restraints (for himself) and oral pleasuring the ladies.

If you desire to be physically pleasured all over your body, let's connect. He is insatiable.

More stuff:
We are a couple that has chosen to honor our preferences together and separately. We have agreed to have an open-type relationship, in that, we know we can not be everything or do everything for each other based on our characters. He is not looking for 'fun-on-the-side' or opportunities to screw around on his partner. Neither am I. This is about finding someone to help ME fill in the gaps by USING HIM. More about this further down.

I am the dominant partner, he is the submissive partner and we try to keep a 'balance' going. In this respect, balance does not mean 50/50 since I am totally responsible for maintaining control and direction in our emotional relationship. However, I am new to living 24/7 as a dominant partner and there are issues about maintaining a long term D&s relationship I am learning. This is a serious issue for us, it equates the balance for us. I have previously done 'play dates' and some scenes with regular partners, some long term (> 1 year) but I've never lived with a submissive partner whose needs for servicing way exceed what I can enjoy taking advantage of. It is more than just a conjugal partnership. I have found that I am back to a 'parenting' stage; albeit, parenting on a different level, the responsibilities for me are just as involved. But, I can not really parent an adult, so I have to remodel 'parenting'. This is a Work-In-Progress, but there is a gap between what it takes from my side to enjoy what he has to offer (which I certainly do appreciate and desire) and what it takes from my side to truly push his limits towards that complete transformation he is longing for and which we cannot achieve without some assistance.

Having said all that, here's where I/we are. As you can understand from the above, I have found that I am falling short in giving him everything that he needs to become a slave. We/he needs a real experience, more than playing for a few hours on a random weekend. It would take interaction from me 24/7 to achieve the level of activity necessary to foment his change into a dyed-in-the-wool slave ;-) He has great potential for being a "forever" pleasure toy, so I want to arrange more opportunities than I can give him presently.

Realizing my limitations in experience and some new physical limitations that I developed fairly recently, I am seeking assistance from someone(s) who would allow him to physically serve and admire the female physique by giving him NO choice in the matter. Also realizing that, although this objective attracts me as desirable, right now it goes beyond what I require for the purpose of satisfying my own needs, and it also goes beyond what I am comfortable providing all by myself - I need other women to help me. This is not for his sexual pleasure for he gets his primary pleasure through giving pleasure. He is very touchy-feely and oral and does not seek penetrative intercourse. Neither will I allow that. Otherwise, I will allow you to have control of him while he serves/pleasures you at your direction. If it pleases you to play games with him, for instance to see him suffer when you tease him, I will allow that and grant you complete access to and control of his body for such purposes. He needs this outlet more than I alone can give him. His desire can be insatiable and honestly, I feel badly that I do not allow him as much expression much expression and experience in this realm as I know he requires. I am constantly learning these requirements must be attended to daily or we sometimes lose our place and can end up at the beginning. Not good for either of us.
What you will get in the arrangement is very personal attention at your direction. Full control of him while he is with you. I will even entertain the idea of 'loaning' him out or even sharing him more if the chemistry is right with you and him. What he gets is the opportunity to feed his hunger for providing intimate pleasures and submission and for experiencing strict control under your hand while he is with you. He gets stripped of any chance to influence the outcome of his situation.

For my part, I would consider you and I to be friends and part-time co-owners of him, which would also allow me to learn things from you. We would agree on my boundaries of what is allowable and what is not.

The important stuff: Both of us are very intelligent and accomplished people in different areas. If you were to know him away from the D&s world, you'd never know the depths of his submissiveness. He is an Alpha male, assertive and militant in his behavior in the vanilla world. I am an Alpha female, although passively. I am quiet and observant, especially in a new environment, but I do open up and am bubbly and loquacious. Several times when we have met with other D&s people under vanilla circumstances, I have been perceived to be the submissive one in our relationship. I am Alpha all the time; a benevolent despot ;-). He might be considered a switch – when contrasting his vanilla existence to his chattel desires and needs, it appears to those who pick up on it to be two completely different personalities. Once he is pushed into his “chattel world”, he is the happiest when he is completely stripped of all rights to have any say whatsoever about what is being done to him and what he is being used for. He needs that emotional satisfaction of feeling that he is facilitating pleasure for a worthy woman who takes unlimited advantage of him to the point of what most ordinary people would call “abuse” if they knew about it without knowing the background.
Lastly, although this is a primary consideration: We are both clean, no diseases, no drugs beyond what is required -Rx. We attempt to live healthily by eating good foods, using herbals, taking minerals, supplements, and vitamins. We do enjoy wines, good beer, and some elixirs or mixed drinks (me). I have used 420 for pain management. We are both over 50 yrs old, sane and sober. We keep in mind and practice 'safe-sex' protocols.

If you are interested, contact me and let's get a dialogue started about how you could benefit from using my "toy". You may also contact him directly after you and I have 'met' via email or chatting. If by chance you make or have made contact with him before contacting me he will ask you to open a dialogue with me first. I also suggest that if you find you are genuinely interested that we all meet and get acquainted before any actual interaction takes place. From there we can discuss things further, make arrangements if the karma is good.

I welcome your responses and will reply to all. Please note, I usually open my account late in the day or at night so if you send me something early in the day my reply will come late or perhaps the next day.

Rhamnusia

Touching, cuddling, bondage, objectification, mummification, suspension, female urinal, vagina cleaner, some torture (including anal fisting), general pleasure toy particularly for fat women, lab specimen for joined fun.